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On “Unburdening”
It’s a new year and time for new goals! This year, however, instead of adding to my list of to-do’s, I decided to do an about-turn and actively strike things off! My word for the year is “unburdened.” And I’m framing my goals this year as: “This year, I choose to unburden myself of …” As women in our midlife years, we’re all living such busy lives, sandwiched between rising careers, growing children, aging parents, and whatever time we can eke out for a social life, rest, and self-care. No matter how efficiently we handle each day, we know that…
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On Happiness as an Act of Rebellion
There is much literature out there on how to find, create, or manifest happiness in our lives. However, I would like to propose an alternate way of pursuing happiness — and I call it happiness as an act of rebellion. Per this point of view, I encourage us to tap into the feisty, resilient, and defiant sides of our beings, and to think about happiness as an act of rebelling against all the forces in our life that would keep us from it. I think it’s undeniable that a large part of life is what I call “the grind.” No…
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On Breaking Generational Patterns
As we embark into a new year and creating new goals, I believe that one other important task each of us can also adopt is identifying and committing to breaking at least one generational pattern that no longer serves us. This is deep, reflective, difficult work, but it also is so rewarding and can pave the way for profound fulfillment and relief. Whether we are are fully aware of it or not, we are all impacted by generational patterns that no longer serve us. There are obvious and dangerous patterns that most of us are aware we need to break…
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On Being a “Non-Competitor” & “Non-Influencer”
We currently live in a culture with a lot of focus on being bigger, faster, stronger, achieving, succeeding, accomplishing, and generally just getting after more, and more, and more! And we also live in an influencer society, where there’s a lot of value attached to having a platform and having a voice that reaches as many people as possible. But, if left unchecked, both of these can be draining, distracting, and perhaps even detrimental to our lives. To be clear, I am not against competing or influencing. I have competed a fair amount in my life — I competed to…
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On Body Positivity
The topic of our bodies is so loaded and also filled with many contradictions and dichotomies. For instance, I will admit that even though I feel very empowered about my body, I still step on a scale every single morning and spend a considerable amount of time thinking about my work-outs and diet because I care about its appearance, which does impact my confidence. Also, I know plenty of women who no matter how hard they work out or how much they control their diets, their bodies will never fit society’s (warped and one-dimensional) standard of what is considered “attractive”…
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On Boundaries & Compartmentalization
I sometimes get asked by younger moms, “how do you do it all?” And there are two words that pop up in my head like a mantra: boundaries and compartmentalization. On any given day, I may have some or all of the following facets in my life expecting — or even demanding — pieces of my time and energy: full-time corporate job, three children with robust lives and schedules, husband, parents, extended family, friends, household chores & responsibilities, various social commitments, and of course self-care and growth (in other words, demands that I have for myself). And the thing is…
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